As our kids become tweens and
teens and head to middle school, the rules of parenting change. We go from very
directive parenting to more of a guidance or coaching style of parenting. We have to give our kids the space to figure
out who they are, to allow them to make mistakes and learn recovery from those
mistakes, and to try on new behaviors like new clothes and decide for
themselves how those behaviors feel.
This is a very insecure and uncertain time for t(w)eens and they need us
to love them unconditionally while they are behaving in most unlovable
ways. Avoid being critical at all costs
while still setting limits and saying “no” when necessary. Be consistent and keep your kids connected to
family as much as possible. Hang on for the wild ride that is parenting teens!
Bette Levy Alkazian, LMFT, BCPC
Balanced Parenting
www.BalancedParenting.com
from MOMIPEDIA post
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