Self-esteem! How do we grow it in our kids? First, we give them opportunities to do things for themselves. When we step in and "help" or take over altogether, we rob them of the chance to feel good about doing something for themselves. We have to tolerate their frustration, allow them to be uncomfortable and let them get to the "I DID IT!" Stepping in communicates to our kids that we don't have faith in them. We want them to have faith in themselves so we have to have faith first. Before offering assistance, ask if they'd like your help and then be sure to give them the space to try for themselves the next time. Express your confidence in them and stay out as much as possible. Listen for those times when your kids are proud of themselves and then please share with us here!
Wishing you balance,
Bette Alkazian, LMFT
Balanced Parenting
www.BalancedParenting.com
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