Mother-In-Law or Monster-In-Law?
Q: How many mothers-in-law does it take to change a lightbulb?
A: One. She just holds it up there and waits for the world to revolve around her.
Mothers-in-law have historically gotten a bad rap. Why? For some the jokes are likely true, but that's not true of all mothers-in-law. Whenever I do speaking engagements and the subject of mothers-in-law comes up, the room explodes into fireworks. I've asked myself, "why is this such a hot topic?" So, I've decided to write an article and do some research on this subject.
Here are a few items from my research so far:
- Mothers-in-law (MIL's) have better relationships with their Daughters-in-law (DIL's) when they engage in inclusive behaviors such as sharing family stories, calling her "daughter", etc...
- MIL's and DIL's better relationships occur when the MIL is seen as warm or sweet in personality.
- A better relationship is associated with a good relationship with the MIL's son or daughter.
- A better relationship is associated with the spouse displaying loyalty to the DIL before the MIL. (That one's going to cause some fights tonight!)
There is so much more information that I will save for my article. Stay tuned. In the meantime, I'd love to hear from you about your relationships. E-mail me at firstname.lastname@example.org and put "mother-in-law" in the subject line. Thank you, in advance, for your input and sharing.
Wishing you balance,