tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6724064241778610143.post1744876441516419605..comments2023-09-05T01:30:52.993-07:00Comments on Balanced Parenting Blog: Bette Chimes in on the Tiger MomBette Alkazianhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00381517600109908065noreply@blogger.comBlogger1125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6724064241778610143.post-28019850100097776872011-01-31T13:43:43.058-08:002011-01-31T13:43:43.058-08:00I want to weigh in on the CHinese woman who thinks...I want to weigh in on the CHinese woman who thinks calling her children "Trash" is a good thing. I believe that if I call my children Trash they will believe me and eventually in some awful way act it out. Insulting children can only be harmful. I do agree that Westerner's over indulge our children. We allow them hours of television, on line facebook etc. If we want them to achieve I think we need to use "balancedparenting". To me "balancedparenting" means some of this and some of that. I would allow a set amount of time on computers (that doesn't relate to homework), television etc. And, if grades were not where the ability of my child was, I would begin by limiting the time more. I would tell my child that they are very capable of getting (whatever grades you believe they are capable of) and that until thos grades are achieved the limit on fun stuff will continue to increase. I think the author has very high expectations and maybe for good cause, but there has to be a limit. My last child (a girl) was raised to understand that first is grammar school, then middle school, then high school, then college. There was no "if" between any school. When my boys were her age I was goo dumb to realize that that particular message was important. I didn't think about their capabilities until it was way too late, but I NEVER insulted them. Sincerely, an avid reader and supporter of Balanced Parenting.Terry Gibsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13384678730931490554noreply@blogger.com